30 Day Writing Challenge – Day Twenty Four
So I saw the above list on Facebook and decided it was worth giving a go. Every day for the month of April, I’ll be putting together a short blog on the chosen topic. But of course since I have a life and responsibilities, I might have written it a few days in advance and scheduled it to appear on my blog for the right day! So, with that in mind, here’s today’s blog.
“24. Something you miss.”
There’s no doubt that starting a family has meant a lot of changes in my life, but one of the biggest changes is my use of time.
Take a normal day. Most people sleep about a third of the day away, and for me another five of the seven days is spent at work for another third of that so that eats up a lot too. But what about the rest of the time?
Well, previously I’d fill up the other hours playing football, watching football, trying to play golf, playing badminton, or watching all sorts of boxsets with my wife. As far as I can recall, that’s what took up most of my time. Somewhere along the lines I also had time to write a book, which took about 11 months on and off.
Okay, so compare that to where I am now. The golf clubs haven’t been out of the cupboard in over a year as I just can’t fit in time to go to the range never mind spend a good four to five hours on a course. I still get to play football once a week, but it involves fitting it in around my wife’s shifts so I don’t get to play every week. Most weeks, but not every week. It’s an either/or with badminton, there’s no week that I get to do both. Football involves more running so it usually wins if I get the choice of the two.
Watching football. That’s probably the one that’s disappeared the most. It used to be I’d never miss a Celtic game. I’d either be at the game, or I’d be watching on TV if I didn’t have a ticket. Then I stopped going to away games and stuck to the home games. Then I stopped going to the home games as well because I couldn’t fit it around the weekends where I was either watching my son while my wife worked, or we were getting some quality time for the three of us. And that stops me even watching the games on TV a lot of the time. My best hope for watching football now is either to time it around my son’s nap or to watch an evening game when he’s gone to bed.
Very occasionally he watches bits of a game with me, and it’s been quite funny in recent weeks when he cheers seconds after I cheer. I’m pretty certain he doesn’t understand what he’s cheering though. He cheered a Falkirk goal of his own accord on the radio a few weeks ago because he recognised the excited commentator and the fans in the background as being a goal. So he knows when to cheer, just not why or which team. Not yet anyway!
Boxsets… yeah, we get to watch them occasionally at night, when we’re not too tired that is! Having a family is exhausting, to the point that when they go to bed you find yourself staying up later than you probably should mainly because you refuse to get to the point where you don’t have any time to yourself.
Which is pretty daft to be honest because here’s the oddest part of it – despite not having any time any more I still know starting a family was the right decision. I’d love to have more time, but there’s no way I’d swap it and go back to the way it was. Football, golf, boxsets… all of it combined doesn’t even come close to what I spend my time doing now.
Trips to the transport museum to see my son get excited because there’s a fire engine. Making him laugh by doing nothing more complicated than sticking out my tongue. Simple things make the biggest difference. Besides, as time goes by he’ll grow to appreciate more complicated things. Maybe he’ll want to take up golf, or want to watch football. Then I get to do all the things I used to like doing only this time I get to share them with the best aspect of my life.
But that doesn’t meant I don’t still miss the time I used to have. If that doesn’t seem to make sense, then just accept that’s life, it’s not black and white.